10.28.2010

liberation as confinement


''The feminist agenda is not about equal rights for women. It is about a socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians.'' ~ Pat Robertson


Some people are incredibly stupid.


Unfortunately, this exaggeration is not totally absurd. It's the stereotypical view of feminism & the mould society thus expects feminists to fit into. Women's liberation movements have been increasingly prevalent and successful in the past 40 years, however, as liberated as women are nowadays, women are still painfully confined to roles expected of them. Similarly with the homosexual rights movements (or even just societal acceptance that there will be gay people in this world *gasp!*), society is increasingly accepting of homosexuals, bisexuals, and transgenders (among other determinations across the spectrum of gender and sexuality), yet it is only insofar as the non-heterosexual fits the societal concept of what is "gay." ABC's Modern Family has been forward-moving in it's depiction of an openly gay couple, yet note that in the series entire 1 1/2 season run, the gay couple has yet to be depicted even sharing a kiss. It's depressing to realize that as forward as we think we are as a society, we're still not truly accepting of anything outside of a male-dominated society's expected roles of women, gays, children, etc.

10.06.2010

answer me this

in today’s world i’m left increasingly disappointed

not that i’ve had any experience with prior eras

(i’d appreciate if someone would fucking invent a time machine asap)

(that’d be pretty cool, let’s be real)

but i have a few questions


like…


since when did people become so impersonal?

1 in 5 marriages today started online…

(not that I’m against online dating)

(but I thought life partners are supposed to be more cosmically planned than that)

what happened to that attitude everyone had freshman year in college

that overwhelming sense of possibility and opportunity

that swelled upon any interaction with another person

that echoing thought: “this person could be a huge part of my life”

when did that change?


and


since when did college stop catering to the student?

i busted my ass through high school

with the only light at the end of my tunnel being that

“when you get to college you’ll only have to study the things you want”

(thanks, dad)

but then what am i struggling through language, math, and science requirements for,

destroying my gpa,

when all I want to do is study literature?


what’s going on here?

9.14.2010

the propriety of education and idleness

you know what blows? being a collegiate student athlete.

alright that sounds pretentious and entitled. but people, it's not all it's cracked up to me. sure, we have wonderful benefits (who doesn't love free nike gear, free oakley sunglass, free nike sneakers (every year), free tutoring, an extra academic advisor, free books, free healthcare & a trainer on call 24/7 for your health needs, travelling to places like california, ohio, tennessee free of charge, and an instant friend base & even the opportunity to make friends with future sport celebrities on other teams as well as your own??), and sure, i love my sport almost more than anything & can't imagine my life without it....but past that...sometimes it really suckks.

this weekend i went to visit S in harrisonburg and helllooooo meredith welcome to the real world and the real college experience. just living with him for a weekend in his apartment, with his 3 other regular-student roommates and meeting the other regular-student girls who live above him and meeting the other regular-student guys they hang out with...it was unreal. regular students literally have no reason to leave the house except to go to class. which they arent even required to do (oh yeah, as student athletes we have our classes checked every day to make sure we're attending--and if you miss one class it gets reported to your coach & punishments vary but often involve missing a practice, not being allowed to compete, or having to do extra hours of study hall or community service). I'm stressed 24/7 because i literally always have somewhere to be. On any given day my schedule is something like this:

6am: practice
930: class
11: tutoring or study hall
12: lunch
1: class
3: 20 minute nap
4: practice
630: dinner
8: study hall
10: MY ONLY FREE TIME (please note i generally fill this with episodes of teen mom, jersey shore, or moped rides about campus--oh & duh, facebook stalking)
12: sleep

not to mention the addition of field studies for my education classes...community service through athletics, athletic department mandatory dinners, career workshops, etc, and bi-weekly meetings with my academic advisor. UNREAL.

i'm truly not trying to sound ungrateful. i'm not. most days i love my lifestyle, and i absolutely loooove rowing so i would never give that up. it's just once in a while i realize how different my life is from the majority of kids my age, and how nice it would be to live as a regular student, maybe just for a week or two, with no obligations, places to be, wake up times, class skipping repurcussions, etc. freedom, just for a little bit, might be nice. i also stress that my different take on the college experience is a mistake...shouldn't i be fucking around like every other college kid? squandering my parents money to half-ass academics & get schmammered 8 days a week?

in my british lit class we're presently reading jane austen's "sense & sensibility" (ps i love that witty motherfucker--she still has people [me] laughing out loud at her snarkey-ness decades later). the passage i had to read last night included the passage in which one of the characters, edward, comments on what profession he'd like to pursue (clergy), what his mother would rather have him pursue (law, military), and what he's doing instead (endlessly studying at oxford), in which he declares that "idleness was pronounced on the whole to be the most advantageous and hounourable" and that he was "therefore entered at oxford and have been properly idle ever since."

it amazes me that even generations ago, people still considered collegiate education in the same light. idleness is a staple if not the definition of college it seems, and while i think its a much needed break from the stifled nature of childhood and adolescence, i mostly just think that society's getting it wrong. undergraduate education is taken for granted nowadays and it's truly depressing. 4 years of school is a steep price for anyone to pay for their child's education, regardless of economic status, and i feel like more often than not, kids squander it. the way i see it....i only have 5 1/2 more semesters to learn whatever i want and as much as i want free of charge (as in, thank you mom & dad for giving this truly amazing opportunity...i'm immensely grateful..really) .... i'd have to be stupid to not take full advantage of this. perhaps as an education major i place a higher value on education than most people do...but i'm okay with that. and that's why ultimately....i'm really glad i'm a collegiate student athlete. besides all the benefits (they rock) and my adoration for rowing, i love the student athlete lifestyle because it keeps me focused. i'm kept busy so fucking around isn't an option...this lifestyle requires dedication and effort in everything i do, and i love that my sport makes me inadvertently take proper advantage of a monstrously wonderful opportunity.

8.28.2010

shout-out

because i know she loves attention & recognition & mostly because i think she's absolutely wonderful: happy birthday to katy kownacki today (& thank you for being such a fantastic & influential role model/teacher-friend for me for the past 2 (3?) years :] )


ps: 29 is definitely not old

8.27.2010

"take your time coming home"

i think i'm finally becoming a person.
i don't know what happened, how it happened, or even exactly when. but i've been overwhelmed with this incedible sense of purpose, confidence, direction the entire time since i've come back to school (okay so maybe that answers the when).
it's amazing:
-my room is organized (i'm not a traditionally organized person)
-i'm eating healthy (i've actually cut soda & junk food out of my diet [okay except for that cupcake last night but that was an exception] & have lost six pounds since coming to school)
-i have more work to do than ever this semester but i'm handling it well & for the first time in my life i'm truly studious (i had all my homework done for the week by wednesday!)


the most exciting part is how confident i am in my future career choice.
since 7th grade i've known two things: i love English & i want to be a teacher. since 10th grade i've known two more things: i love literature & i want to be an English teacher.
but i'm kinda starting to understand why. i really love helping people. i love being the behind the scenes person who can influence a person's life. this sounds painfully cheesy and i'm sure of the 4,099876,0978765,097865875 students i'll ever have i'll maybe actually have an impact on like 1.2 of them, but the possibility is thrilling. we've just read "push" in my adolescent literature class and it's confirmed something else i strongly believe--everyone deserves a chance because you truly have no idea the truth of anyone's life.

also i really just need to express: i fucking love keats. we've read so many keats poems in the past two semesters (engl 310--thank you dr L--& engl 397 --thank you dr M) & the wonderful thing is i get it. & also that the jason segel lookalike/actalike in my brit lit class thinks i'm wonderfully brilliant so that's always a plus! :)